PHYSICAL ABUSE:

• Stalking you.

• Destroying your belongings.

• Throwing objects at you.

• Touching you in ways that hurt or scare you.

• Twisting your arm, slapping, or biting you.

• Pushing or shoving you.

• Depriving you of food, shelter, money or clothing.

• Threatening you with weapons.

• Hitting, punching, or kicking you.

• Strangling or throwing you.

• Abusing you to the point you need medical treatment.

• Breaking your bones and/or causing internal injuries.

• Causing a miscarriage or injuries that require a therapeutic abortion.

• Denying you medical treatment.

• Inflicting permanent disabling and/or disfiguring injuries.

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EMOTIONAL/VERBAL ABUSE:

• Taunting you in the name of “fun”.

• Ignoring you and/or your feelings.

• Insulting you repeatedly.

• Yelling at you.

• Telling you that you will fail.

• Blaming you for her/his faults.

• Threatening you with violence or retaliation.

• Threatening to hurt your pets.

• Threatening to abuse the children and/or get custody of them.

• Telling you that you must stay because you can’t make it alone.

• Accusing you of being violent when you protect yourself in any way.

• Labeling you as crazy, stupid, bitch, bastard, ugly, or a whore.

• Blaming you for things that go wrong.

• Holding back approval as a form of punishment.

 

SOCIAL ABUSE:

• Insulting you publicly.

• Controlling your use of money.

• Putting down your abilities.

• Checking up on you.

• Taping conversations.

• Following you from place to place – stalking

• Demanding all of your attention and resenting any focus on others.

• Making a public display of destroying property.

• Threatening to hurt your extended family and friends.

• Isolating you from friends or activities.

• Spending paychecks without meeting obligations.

 

SEXUAL ABUSE:

• Talking about you or others as sexual objects.

• Forcing you to have sex, including sex after a beating.

• Criticizing your sexual performance.

• Withholding affection to punish you.

• Accusing you of looking at, talking to, or having sex with another.

• Forcing you to engage in sexual activities that are uncomfortable for you.

• Inflicting harm or mutilation of your genitals.

• Strangling or slapping you during sex.

 

SPIRITUAL ABUSE:

• Discounting your sense of right and wrong.

• Denying, minimizing, or ridiculing your spiritual beliefs.

• Denying your value as a person with legitimate wants and likes.

• Questioning your motives for just about everything.

• Questioning your sense of reality.

• Refusing to allow you access to worship communities or support groups.

  

SYSTEMS ABUSE:

• Violating restraining and protection orders.

• Lying to officials – including Judges – concerning legal information                                                                                                                                      

• Counter suing for divorce and/or custody after victim has applied.

• Filing a restraining or protection order on the victim before the victim files.                                                                                                                                           

• Making false statements and/or coercing children into false statements

• Explaining the types and amount of abuse in attempt to minimize the impact.

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FINANCIAL ABUSE:

• Withholding, diverting, or embezzling funds.

• Controlling funds so victim does not have access to purchasing basic needs.

• Denying the victim the right to seek and/or maintain employment.

• Taking victim’s personal money with or without permission.

• Excluding the victim from making financial decisions.